When it comes to breastfeeding, there are so many things new moms wish they had known before they started. From unexpected emotions to practical challenges, breastfeeding can be beautiful, empowering, confusing, and frustrating – all at once. At AskHer.com, we hear from countless women every day who share what they wish someone had told them before the first latch. Here are some of the most common truths new moms wish they knew earlier.
“I thought breastfeeding would be instinctive. But it was actually hard, and I needed help.” — Emily, TX
Breastfeeding is a skill – for both mom and baby. It takes time, patience, and sometimes a lot of trial and error. The idea that breastfeeding should “just happen” can set moms up for disappointment. You’re not alone if it takes time to get it right.
“Once we figured out the latch, it made all the difference. I went from dreading feeds to looking forward to them.” — Jasmine, CA
Latch problems are one of the most common early challenges. A proper latch can prevent nipple pain, improve milk transfer, and help establish a smoother breastfeeding routine. It’s worth getting support early if things don’t feel right.
“Nobody told me that breastfeeding could hurt in the beginning. I thought something was wrong.” — Lauren, NY
Some discomfort is common in the early days, but ongoing pain is a red flag. Things like sore nipples, engorgement, or even mastitis can be addressed with proper guidance and care. Our Breastfeeding Series at AskHer.com covers how to spot and solve common issues like these.
“I was constantly worried I wasn’t making enough milk. Turns out, I was!” — Brianna, IL
Milk supply anxiety is real. But signs like frequent wet diapers, steady weight gain, and a content baby usually mean you’re doing just fine. Still unsure? Laura, our lactation consultant expert at AskHer.com walks you through how to understand supply, production, and your baby’s cues.
“What changed everything for me was having someone say, ‘You’re doing great, keep going.’” — Nicole, FL
Whether it’s a lactation consultant, a trusted friend, or an online course, getting support can be the key to breastfeeding success. Our Breastfeeding Series courses offer expert advice, video tutorials, and real-life guidance to make your journey smoother and more confident.
“I felt guilty for not loving every moment. But I learned it’s okay to struggle and ask for help.” — Amanda, CO
Breastfeeding can stir up big emotions. Hormonal shifts, sleep deprivation, and the pressure to “do it right” can feel overwhelming. Remember: feeding your baby is important, but so are you. Take breaks, talk it out, and prioritize your well-being.
“I had to stop earlier than I wanted. It broke my heart – but I did what was right for me and my baby.” — Samantha, WA
Some moms breastfeed for a few weeks, some for years. Some combo-feed. Some pump exclusively. All of it is okay. There is no “perfect” way – only the way that works for you.
You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. At AskHer.com, we offer expert-led, mom-approved courses in our Breastfeeding Series, designed to support you through every step of your feeding journey – from first latch to weaning.
Explore our online breastfeeding courses today and get the confidence, clarity, and support every mom deserves.
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